Your Thoughts on NJ

  • What is your perception of New Jersey, and how was that perception formed?
  • Why do you feel the way you do about NJ?

Many U.S. residents have an opinion of the Garden State, regardless of how much time they have spent here.  What we would like to find out is why and how these opinions came to exist, be them negative or positive.  The more details and specific incidents you can provide, the better. 

Please use the form at the bottom of this page to share your thoughts… we look forward to hearing from you!



72 Responses to “Your Thoughts on NJ”
  1. Going says:

    I’m born and raised in Jersey. I love where I grew up, but I have to leave. I will miss it much, but it really is just too expensive to live a simple life in NJ. If I win the lottery, I’ll definitely buy a place back home, though. Until then…

  2. Abby says:

    I grew up in Wall township right by the beautiful and historic town of Manasquan. Belmar and Point Pleasant beach were just minutes away. I miss the beach and being able to drive to the Manasquan inlet on a bad day to reflect. I miss the boardwalk in the summer. I miss the small town feel but still having everything just minutes away. I miss being able to drive up north to Hoboken or even NYC. I miss all the trees and sounds of birds. I miss driving to New Hope, PA to take in the beautiful scenery. I miss having NYC and PA less than an hour away. My list can go on and on.

    I am currently living in Highlands Ranch, Colorado with my Colorado native husband. We will be moving to jersey in the summer and I CAN’T wait! Colorado is not for me.

    I used to get defensive when people outside of jersey would talk trash. Now I look at it like this, New Jersey is our little secret. Best if we keep it to our selves and keep the ignorant people out.

    I will be a Jersey Girl forever. It’s what made who I am today and I am proud of that no matter what negative things people have to say about the state.

  3. Johnna says:

    Grew-up in South Jeresy, & I have lived in Key West, Florida since 2006.
    Although Key West is pleasant, I’m ready to “Go Home” to South Jersey.

  4. John P says:

    I was born and raised in Jersey. Years ago we moved to Harvest Alabama, and I tell ya, there IS no place like home. We have recently put our house up for sale and when it sells, we will be on our way back to New Jersey, My Home. High taxes, so what, and compared to Alabama, that is the only negative. People down here are still 20 years behind most of the country. No one knows what a “diner” is, and everyone here seems overweight. Yada yada yada.

    I love New Jersey, we are coming back home soon.

  5. Joel from Tampa, FL says:

    I love Jersey & miss it terribly!

    I was born & raised in Camden, County, close to Philly. So I am a south Jersey boy all the way! My elementary (Erial), middle (C.W. Lewis), & high school (Highland) were all on the same road. The people were great – emotional & loud, but some of the most loyal friends ever. You always new where you stood with people in Jersey!

    The food was the best! Wa-wa’s were everywhere & you could always get to the mall or shore in just a little while. I live in Florida now, but would move back in a heart beat!

  6. Jill says:

    I love my homestate! The memories I’ve had there as a child with all of my friends and family will always be with me. I was lucky to come into the world to a great Italian family who gave me lots of love, food, security and wholesome self esteem. My grandfather was a barber in Plainfield, where we lived.

    They, my mother and me and my cousins all went to Plainfield high school. I remember so many places that we had so many good times at. My grandparents moved to Whitehouse, which was beautiful, too, then back to Plainfield. I never remember pollution, smog, or any of those rotten things that other people have said about my home state.

    I do not remember people who were rude, my family were warm, lovely people. Yes it’s crowded, and you can see why. It’s expensive, too and you can see why.

    My parents moved us up to Maine in 1978 and we were looking forward to what we thought would be a better life with better people. We hated it! The people were unimaginably rude and nasty to us. We were told it was a land ‘flowing with milk and honey’ in so many words, and it was filled with a lot of nasty people who hate people from New Jersey, New York and other states as well. They do not like diversity there and in their eyes, the locals do no wrong.

    I tried several times to relocate back to NJ, but it was just too impossibly expensive. My other relatives moved out because it was too expensive to live there and they are professionals. The house we lived in on Park Avenue there that my parents mortgaged for 35,000 in 1972 now sells for at least $500,000 today.

    All those who are thinking of leaving New Jersey for ‘a better place to live’ THINK AND THINK AGAIN! Appreciate what you have. The people who live in other states do not have life nearly as good as they’d love for you to think! You will cry to come home and not be able to someday! Heaven knows I did!

    Maine was not nearly as lovely and classy as New Jersey. Not as green, either. I remember New Jersey being plush and green and sunny and warm and beautiful. Yeah, we had racial tension, but I’ve also seen love prevail. I knew a lot of good people there who were sincere and good hearted. Scotland is also a green, warm lovely place with friendly people, too. But New Jersey and my life there will always be in my heart.

  7. Anonymous from Nazareth, PA says:

    New Jersey is worse than any place I HAVE EVER BEEN TO with the exception of Washington, D.C.

    Stay out of Pennsylvania until you learn how to drive. Oh and clean the needles off of your beaches…

  8. Nick from Richmond, VA says:

    Too many of these loud idiots come down here (Virginia) to go to college. Get out of my state, and stay in your overcrowded, smelly, toxic dump that you call a state.

  9. Cristina from Cape Coral, FL says:

    Jersey is my home. Living in Florida people just don’t understand that we, as a state have our own culture. Jersey is and forever will be the greatest place on the map. It’s the one place where no matter where you go, there are plenty of things to do to just live your life. Its amazing.

    Oh, and who could forget WAWA brand iced tea. NOTHING else beats it. I will forever be in love with Jersey.

  10. Thomas M. from Copenhagen, Denmark says:

    I’m not from New Jersey, but from Copenhagen, Denmark.
    I have lived in Hoboken, NJ for 3 years and have to say there is NO place like Jersey.

    Love it, and wish I was still living there.
    Keep the City, Jersey RULES.

  11. Glenn from Morristown, NJ says:

    I grew up in the country outside Binghamton, NY (upstate NY), on a farm with 100 acres and 1 TV channel. I ended up moving to Easton, Pa., and am now in NJ because the commute from Pa. was too hectic with traffic. I am not crazy about NJ! The roads aren’t well marked (on a cross street in NY, both streets are marked; in NJ (and Pa.!), only the main street is. What’s up with that?). It’s confusing to get around.

    *Too many towns! It’s tough keeping the streets in the different towns straight. In the Lehigh Valley, Pa., there were 3 cities, and you knew what was off the main streets, and there weren’t multiple towns with the same street names! That’s nutty! Not having the streets marked doesn’t help!

    *Prices are too high! My Easton apartment was $400/month, and was above a dentist’s office. In NJ, my rent is $1000 and goes up 3% every year. And leases are for a full year. Whatever happened to monthly leases?

    *Traffic. It’s everywhere, and you can’t get around it. This is bumper-to-bumper traffic that moves slooooowly.

    *NJ cops are nasty! You’re guaranteed a ticket if you get pulled over.

    *In NJ, you can’t fix your car on your apartment grounds, and you can’t change your own oil either. Too many restrictions on everything.

    *To be fair, the weather is nice, and warmer than in upstate NY (about 7 degrees warmer here). Nice scenery, nice selection of restaurants. Hey, it’s near NYC, so there’s going to be more selection. For taxes, you have to fill out only your state form (in Pa., there’s the state and local tax form), which is easier.

    Overall, too many negatives, I’m sorry!

  12. "Redneck Joe" from Nashville, TN says:

    Like almost all of the country, I have an extremely negative opinion of NJ. It would be appropriate to describe it as hatred.

    I grew up in Burlington County, NJ. I’m 37 now, and have spent most of my adult life in the South (NC and TN). After learning the southern culture, dating, making friends, paying bills, exploring the outdoors, I feel like I am surrounded by unfortunate, pitiable people when I visit NJ. Coming back and seeing it again with a different perspective is really enlightening.

    People in NJ grow up with a paranoia that is a necessary survival mechanism there. There is a trashy “I don’t take no shit from nobody” attitude even, as someone mentioned, in the affluent areas. This is inculcated during childhood and adolescence, because the parents are struggling to make ends meet, and feel like pincushions with all of the abuse from the government – taxes, fees, endlessly growing lists of laws and regulations.

    Neighbors are often unfriendly to each other, because of “the chip.” This is a ‘guilty until proven innocent’ regard for strangers that festers in the souls of people who have been taken advantage of their entire lives by selfish, dishonest people and a corrupt government.

    The property taxes in the suburbs of Nashville, Raleigh, Charlotte, and Atlanta are a third of what they are in most of NJ, AND your dollar buys you MUCH more in terms of house and land.

    Ever been to the Outer Banks of NC? Much prettier and cleaner than anything in NJ, the water is warm enough to swim for a longer portion of the year, renting a vacation spot is much less than in the Jersey shore towns, no beach tags, people are polite, no parking meters and meter cops.

    People mentioned NJ having four seasons. Ever spend a year in TN or NC? It snows every year here. The foliage in the fall is famous around the country. Springtime is glorious, and when it comes, it is robust. The fish are bigger and more plentiful and bite more often, and are less likely to contain chemicals that can harm you.

    I know most of you Yankees are anti-gun and don’t care, but do you realize how restricted personal freedoms are in NJ regarding gun ownership? I bought a rifle in Bass Pro Shop in the South without even showing my driver’s license, and gun crime there is, guess what? LOWER.

    There is a noticeable difference in the behavior of drivers between the two regions. People in NJ speed more, tailgate more, run more red lights, and risk the lives and property of others more. That is undebatable. When I moved to the South, my auto insurance (same company and coverage policy) dropped 50%. My salary was the same (engineer).

    TN has NO state income tax, yet somehow manages to construct roads and bridges without traffic jamming toll booths.

    The South has less drugs in the schools, less violence, yes lower salaries on average, but MUCH lower cost of living that FAR outweighs the salary difference.

    My main reasons for hating NJ are cultural. The way people treat each other is revolting. The disrespect, the “attitude” that people are raised with believing it is a virtue.

    I feel a disdain for people who are willing to put up with so much abuse from a shameless government. A successful family in NJ can easily give half a million dollars to their local government in property taxes over 30 years. Why do they put up with that? Do they think it is like that everywhere?

    Try to be a landlord in NJ, or start a business, or get a hunting license if you have never had one. Then go try to do those things in a free state. They are like two different countries.

    And after being away from it for years and listening to the sweet voice of the southern lady, the accent in NJ is like nails on a chalkboard. Even in the southern counties of NJ.

    Most of the people where I grew up in NJ claimed to belong to one church or another, but I never saw a culture where people took their faith seriously and applied it to their lives until I get out of that moral and spiritual sewer.

    I wouldn’t live there if you tripled my salary, gave me a free house, and a million dollar relocation bonus. I mean that.

  13. Alexis from Brick, NJ says:

    I was born and raised right here in New Jersey, I may only be 16 but I know this is where I’m going to spend the rest of my life. I’m from Brick and everyone knows each other someway or another. I work at the boardwalk and it’s the best job I will ever have, even though I hate the Bennies it the greatest job ever.

    This past summer I’ve realized how lucky I am to live at the beach, work on the boardwalk, and to be a JERSEY GIRL. I hate when people talk badly about Jersey and I will always defend it no matter what. And if its so bad them why do people come here. Our life is your vacation.

    We have 24-hour diners that we can go to at 3 a.m. We have the beach that we can just ride our bikes to. We have pork roll, egg and cheese, we don’t pump our own gas, we have U-turns, parkways, and a lot of history. New Jersey is also the diner capital of the world and it has the highest rate for graduating high school students.

    We have farms, upscale communities, not so upscale communities, moutons, suburbs, and the best beaches in the country. And I don’t care what you say it doesn’t smell and we don’t have accents.


  14. Kevin from Tampa, FL says:

    I am from Madison and New Jersey doesn’t get much better than that. Great memories of growing up there and was moved to Florida before I was 18. Wish I would have moved back and now I’m married and have too many connections to Florida to move back. My wife loves New Jersey but wouldn’t leave Florida. We go back once or twice a year.

    The thing people don’t understand is most see New Jersey from the turnpike. When you get off of it and down into the beautiful places like Madison, you see what New Jersey is all about. The best food, shopping, sports, close to Manhattan with a nice train ride, the beauty of woods and farmland.

    The only negative is the expense and I can live better in Florida for less money. Like my old best friend says, let people who only see Jersey from the turnpike think it’s a lousy place. We have enough people here and I like to see it be a best kept secret as much as possible. I love New Jersey.

  15. Snipe from Miami, FL says:

    I didn’t appreciate NJ until I moved to Miami. Although Miami is beautiful compared to the brick city jungle I was born and raised in (Newark, NJ), I now know more about my city and state than when I was there. No matter where I am, my jersey pride is there and don’t let anyone talk about my city or state cause the true Jerseyan will come out.

  16. Mick from Merritt Island, FL says:

    After discharge from the Navy in 1987, I took a job in NJ with a company called Airwork Corp. in Millville. It is now Dallas Airmotive. They overhaul jet engines. They had not hired anyone in years and never had hired licensed mechs like me.

    They hired 11 of us in July of ’88, all FAA licensed and all from out-of-state except one. Everyone who worked there was a local, born and raised there and they were angry with the company for bringing in people from out of state and not hiring locals. Well, the company wanted licensed mechanics and there weren’t any in Millville apparently. Not my fault, I needed a job.

    On my first day I was led to the Rolls Royce shop by the lead mech. I was dragging my new roll away tool box, full of new jet engine mech tools and ready to do what I enjoyed doing, went to school for and spent 4 years doing in the Navy.

    As I entered the shop there was dead silence. All eyes were on me. The lead mech stopped me in the middle of the shop, on the Rolls/Royce emblem on the floor. In a loud voice he said, “So, where’d you get your experience?” I told him the Navy. He says, even louder, “In the Navy?, let me tell you something, you don’t know f**king sh*t!” Well, this scene was repeated 2 more times in the next 2 days as another Navy vet and an Air Force vet came to the shop.

    Similar incidents occurred in the other shops that week. One of my specialties in the Navy was testing jet engines. A test mech job opened in the shop and I put a bid in for it. The lead mech told me I would not go anywhere in that place as long as he was there. All of us new guys were given the most menial tasks in the place. Very few people spoke to us, either out of intimidation from the others or they didn’t like us because we were outsiders.

    During a conversion with a crew leader, I was asked how I liked it so far. I said I was looking elsewhere and hoped to leave soon. He said I would never find another job. This was around Christmas. I told him I wouldn’t be there this time next year. He laughed.

    7 months later I left for a new job with General Dynamics in Cape Canaveral, FL, launching satellites and spacecraft for NASA. As I was driving the U-Haul out of Jersey, I got on the CB and said, “Happiness is New Jersey in the rear view mirror.” Someone came on and replied, “Yeah, well f*ck you, you son of a bitch.”

    On my first day at the Cape I was put with another tech who didn’t say too much and was generally miserable. I said to him “You’re from Jersey aren’t you?” He said, “How the f*ck would you know?” Turns out he was from Vineland and also an ex Navy jet engine mech. I’ve known him for 18 years, one of the closest friends I have. Still, happiness is Jersey in the rear view.

  17. Marty from Knoxville, TN says:

    I notice all your pictures/pride concerning your state are from the great people (and they were the greatest of great) who lived there many years – decades ago. You have little to be proud today, however. You have the highest taxes, the most corruption, and very high crime rate.

    There are many laughable things about many states in this union (mine included), but NJ is in class all by itself. If I were from NJ (God forgive me), I would be compelled to tell others I was from PA, NY, or DE, but never would I admit I was from NJ!

  18. Anita from Temple, TX says:

    I am a die hard Jersey Girl and will be until they lay me down for the last time. I’m currently living in Temple, TX and hating almost every minute of it. I moved here (of my own free will) almost two years ago and have been wanting to go back home almost since day 1.

    Although I’ve read and heard a lot of negative talk about NJ, to me it’s home and can’t anyone make me ever talk bad about it. Yes, there is crime and pollution but there’s crime everywhere. Including here in little old Temple, TX!

    I’m tired of having to defend my state to the people here. I’m tired of telling them that you can’t paint everyone from a state w/ the same brush. And contrary to popular belief, there are some very nice, friendly, pleasant people in Jersey. And there are some ‘not so nice’ people here in Texas. Everyone here does not always treat you with “southern hospitality.”

    They talk about my accent. What accent? Oh, you mean speaking clear, articulate English? Instead of adding extra syllables to one syllable words and that hateful drawl!! It makes me sick!!

    I am counting the days to my return home. Every time I visit NJ and have to leave and come back here, I cry.

    It may not be the best place in the world to live, but it’s my home and always will be! I actually get upset w/ people here when they refer to me as a “Texan”. I will NEVER be a Texan even if I lived here for a million years.

    There are a few good things I can say about my adventure here. Though the salaries are lower, so is the cost of living. I have a very nice 1 bedroom apt. w/ central air/heat, a pool etc. for only $399/month, which we all know is unheard of in NJ.

    I have also met some very nice people and formed very close friendships that I’ll always cherish.

    It will be nice to be back home where I can actually get a slice of (real) pizza, even if it’s 11:00 p.m., take my shoes to the repair shop on a Saturday morning, and even smell the pollution if I have to.

    New Jersey and me, perfect together!

  19. Thomas from Brattleboro, VT says:

    I grew up in Rumson, moved away when I was twelve after my father died, but still go back regularly (Amtrak services Brattleboro, Vermont to New York where I get off and switch to New Jersey transit).

    I was named after my great-great-grandfather who built the Church of Saint Aloysius in Jersey City with stones he shipped over from Ireland. Ever since my father’s side have all been Jerseymen. I will always be a Jerseyman.

  20. Anonymous from Freehold Township says:

    I have to say my blood boils to hear people talk bad about NJ. All their negatives are: can’t pump your own gas (that’s a good thing), people in nj are snobs (not true), everything is so expensive (incomes are also higher), house prices are so high (well you get what you pay for, diverse culture and environment, great people).

    I am so proud of everyone in NJ… from the hair-spraying stylists to the immigrants to the common white family. I love characters, they make life fun.

    NJ is a character in and of its self. Think about TV, if there were no characters there would be no show. So enjoy the show, pay some tolls, flip the bird and never forget you were blessed with one thing no one can take away from you, that all others envy and thrive to be like, your melting pot, pine barren, shore town, close to all cities (that matter). JERSEY PRIDE!

  21. Ken from Jersey City, NJ says:

    Although I unfortunately live in that western “hell-hole” called California, I am born and raised a “Jersey Boy.” I lived for 41 years in Jersey City, Atlantic City, and Ventnor.

    Being away for 8 years has taught me one VERY IMPORTANT lesson–don’t listen to those critics to love to put down NJ. Because NJ IS A LOT BETTER then other places that they love to say are much better (.i.e., California).

    This state government is run by control freaks who want to control EVERYTHING you do, even even in your own apartment. I NEVER ONCE ever had such things happen in NJ.

    How I wish to return. But, until then I’ll say it loud and proud….

  22. Mike B. from Hershey, PA says:

    Growing up in n.j. in the 70s/80s brings back wonderful memories. i was born and raised in point pleasant. we had family values-and family businesses. neighbors were friends. schools were excellent and civic pride was abundant.

    We welcomed the ‘bennies’ in the summer, as that was what gave us summer jobs. and they constantly reminded us how NOT to act in public. it was a win/win.

    but honestly the best part of growing up there was just being able to get on your schwinn and pedaling over the canal bridge to get to the ocean. it took like 10 minutes. the ocean was something i took for granted. i miss it.

  23. James from Ft. Collins, CO says:

    I just want to say I’ve never been to NJ (I grew up near Detroit and have been moving westward), but everyone I’ve met from NJ has described where they live by what exit they used. So, for lots of people in this country, they don’t mean to be mean or rude when they ask “what exit… ?”

    If you find the what exit question offensive, figure out a better way for people to identify where they are from in NJ, which people who don’t know anything about the state can understand. That is the real reason why people in michigan point on their hand where they are from – they don’t want to say they are from some downtrodden town with a bad rap like detroit, or flint, etc.

  24. Dave from Jackson, NJ says:

    I am a native born “Jersey Boy” but moved out of the state at the age of 30. While I believe New Jersey to be a really great place to live, I also believe it is, without a doubt, the most corrupt state in the country.

    If something is not done very soon, the benefits promised to all of the state workers, police, fire and teachers will drive everyone to bankruptcy. Our politicians are, for the most part, corrupt and those that are not refuse to do anything about those that are corrupt.

    Only in this state can we allow elected and appointed officials to hold dual jobs and collect grossly inflated pensions. Only in this state can we accept the fact that PA employees (some of them) are making over $200,000 per year due to overtime – anyone ever think about hiring additional employees?

  25. Patricia from Victorville, CA says:

    I was born in Newton and raised on a dairy farm in Sussex. Best place to grow up and live. I miss the Taylor ham, the four seasons, the Queen’s Diner on 23, Dominic’s pizza (where the brothers spoke only Italian), birch beer, Drakes funny bones, and driving up to DQ.

    We grew our own tomatoes, peaches and apples. Love the old cemeteries, High Point State park for swimming, and the shore. I use to drive my little green Fiat to the shore with my friends.

    Great times walking the boardwalk, eating vinegar fries in newsprint cones. Proud being a Jersey girl and love it when I meet someone that sounds like me. You can’t take the Jersey out no matter where you live. Thank God for Jersey.

  26. Dana from Crawfordville, FL says:

    I moved from Garfield, NJ when I was 14 and I still consider myself a Jersey girl at age 30. I loved all the “you know you are from NJ” comments…so true. People who live outside NJ just don’t understand what it means to be from there.

    Whenever I come up, I have to load up on Devil Dogs, Ring Dings, and Yankee Doodles, as these cannot be found in Florida. How I miss a good slice of pizza, diners, and the ample supply of Dunkin Donuts.

  27. Anisa from Phoenix, AZ says:

    I miss everything about New Jersey except most of the people! Ha. I love my hometown state, it describes me and my feelings about everything!

    Sarcasm, yelling, feeling superior, not pumping gas, diners, taylor ham, exits and highways, too much to explain!! You always feel out of place when you leave Jersey = no one understands you.

  28. Ben from Monmouth Beach, NJ says:

    Many Americans crack jokes about jersey like the usual “Joisy!” or “what exit are you?” Well you know what? New Jersey is the best damn state in this nation! Every town, every, city, and yes, every exit has its culture, history, and activities.

    If everyone talks about how jersy is dirty and gross, then why do you bennys come here to my beach with obnoxious yelling, socks’n'sandals duo, and then expect us to respect you?! While we sometimes fight about who has the better pork roll,egg, and cheese or which exit dominates, we would still stick up for any jersey man or women in a sec.

  29. Dawn from Orange Park, FL says:

    I lived in NJ for 18 yrs. and something I see missing from these comments is that people from Jersey are very down-to-earth and friendly (not angry and aggressive). I lived in Irvington, NJ which has the worst reputation compared to most places in NJ, but I can attest to this: we had the best public schools.

    We went on field trips to New York city to see Broadway productions, we ate at an authentic Spanish restaurant and ordered everything in Spanish from the menu in Harrison, I went to the United Nations numerous times, we went to Sandy Hook to learn about Marine Biology, we went to the WTC and learned about various subjects, AND BEST OF ALL WE HAD ART, MUSIC, WOOD SHOP, HOME EC. AND IT WAS NOT AN ELECTIVE.

    It was not only the field trips, it was the teachers too. We really learned about everything including how to get along with and work with other kids. I thank the NJ public school system. They have instilled intelligence in many students over the years including me.

    I have lived in WA, SC, and FL, and no beach w/o a boardwalk, restaurant, fresh vegetable, or Italian food can compare to Jersey. A pastrami sandwich on rye sounds so great right now : ) Oh but I live in Florida now -so it will remain a dream until I visit Sweet Jersey again…

  30. Gran from Manchester, NJ says:

    We have the highest per capita income in the nation and the most densely populated state in the nation. What’s to make fun of?

  31. Anthony from Seaside Park, NJ says:

    I am sick of hearing negative comments from non-Jersey people because they talk out of ignorance. I live in Seaside Park and it is unreal… clean beaches and water, great bars, boardwalks, and the bay.

    New Jersey has everything to offer. If you don’t live at the beach it is just a short drive to the nicest beaches and sand in the country. The Meadowlands host the Nets, Devils (now in Newark), Giants, and Jets (should be the NJ Giants and Jets clearly).

    I try not to vacation anymore because living here is a vacation and being away makes me realize that. I will never leave New Jersey and if people talk badly about it, just remember that it is the most densely populated state in the country.

  32. Kimberly from San Francisco, CA says:

    Though I have not lived in NJ for almost 15 years, I am still a proud “Jersey Girl.” If I am out anywhere and I here someone dissing NJ, I’m right there defending her.

    Most “haters” have never even been there. Jersey has the best beaches (I live in CA, the sand sucks) tomatoes, corn, and Italian food. Though I probably will never move back, NJ is always close to my heart. :)

  33. Mike from Reseda, CA says:

    NJ is the armpit of the east coast. Look at a map. Staten Island is the arm, southern NJ is the body. Northern NJ is armpit. That explains the smell!!

  34. Keith from Spring Lake Heights, NJ says:

    I am a native of New Jersey and have lived here my entire life. And my number one goal when the time in my career is right and financially it is possible is to get the heck out and never ever come back (except to visit family of course).

    New Jersey is a horrible place for a multitude of reasons. Collectively, we are arrogant, ignorant fools with an inflated self-importance that is clearly not seen in other parts of America. Collectively, we treat our minorities populations, our poor, and our children in a disgustingly failing manner. Collectively, we pride ourselves on things like The Sopranos, pollution, being “tough”, and Bon Jovi – uggh.

    Other regions of the country hate us (as I have seen out west, in the New England states, and in some southern states), and collectively we don’t even realize it because our heads so far up our a**es it’s disgusting. I am mortified to tell people I meet out of state I’m from here and I always apologize for it (I have found in some places out west that helps).

    Other things pathetic about NJ:

    1. Only place in the world where you have to pay for a beach badge (born, raised, and I still live at the Jersey Shore, and it’s sad) 2. Only place where an attendant pumps your gas for you 3. Bon Jovi, Bruce Springsteen, Jim McGreevey 4. Toll booths on our two major highways 5. Suburban sprawl and the corrupt land developers who are allowed to destroy open space and over-populate the Jersey Shore area 6. Northern NJ tourists who destroy the Jersey Shore – and now are living here year round.

  35. Sarah from Bloomfield, NJ says:

    Point Blank, I love New Jersey. People have so many negative things to say about it, and I can never understand why. Recently I went to visit my Father (who lives in Florida), and my step brother made fun of me the whole time about EVERYTHING (especially my “accent”). Now of course I defended NJ the whole time.

    And the whole “Joisey” thing? Never have I EVER heard anyone say that. And Newark? Of course it’s pronounced “Nork,” I never even heard anyone say it different until… I went out-of -state. Well, what I’m trying to say is New Jersey is the best place, and once you get past the stereotypes, you realize that too.

  36. Benjamin from Haddonfield, NJ says:

    Nowhere could be better than this! Colonial History, 24 hour diners, a plethora of Wawas, ‘wooder ice’, down the shore, horror stories of the jersey devil, take the train into philly… What’s not to love?

  37. Mike from Katy, TX says:

    Like Christopher who now lives in San Antonio, I also relocated to Texas — the Houston area. I lived in NJ for 30 years, at the “shore.”

    What do I miss? Good bagels, pork roll, egg and cheese on a hard roll, Saucy Susan on my pork chops, Ronzoni pasta, a Jersey Shore hot dog from the Windmill and the Italian Ices from The Lighthouse. In fact, as far as the last one goes, nobody here even knows what Italian Ice is.

    I know these are all related to eating, but what can I say? Here we have taquerias and kolache joints. Now y’all back in Jersey probably don’t even know what I’m talkin’ about, right? Mangia!!!!!!!!!!

  38. Nick from Livingston, NJ says:

    I grew up in Livingston New Jersey and have great and fond memories of the long summer days going to the beach and of course working at my family’s restaurant. My days were great… even shoveling the snow, being out in it ,and playi8ng in it, it was all beautiful.

    The best part is I am from NJ, where we are truly a unique bunch but we all have one thing in common: a sense of pride, hard work, and a deep loyalty to the state of NJ. No matter what part of jersey you are from, it is a kinship that will last a lifetime. I miss my days in Jersey but I will always have the great memories of being from the Garden State.

  39. John from Middletown, NJ says:

    I have read the positive and negative perceptions and it tells us the obvious everyone is not the same. We all have different likes and dislikes that is how life is in general. But one thing is for sure: if Jersey were such a bad place to live, the price of houses would be lower than the national trend, not at the top of the list in value.

    I wonder if some have never been out of the state when they think its so bad here. I have traveled all over the country – drove across it 3 times. Visited Europe twice and Australia and all the islands, and they are all wonderful places to see and visit but I chose to live in Middletown NJ.

    I can take a train to NYC in less than an hour (or drive), be in Atlantic city in 1 1/2 hours. Be at a beach in 30 minutes. See pro football, basketball, baseball ( yanks, mets, philly), and hockey all within an hour drive. Visit the best college in the country (Princeton) and walk its campus and see its art gallery. If I am ill I can go to any one of the top hospitals in the country, Robert woods, NYU, Columbia etc.

    I can see any new play before it hits the national tour. I will put up the beach of Island State Park with any beach in Florida or California. I can be in ski country in an hour. Jersey hosted the world cup at Giants stadium and will this year host the Breeders Cup at Monmouth Race track. I laugh when people leave for Florida… I love the place in the winter but I couldn’t live there. Apparently they have no helmet law ,so now over 500 people a year die. In New Jersey we don’t have earthquakes, and it’s rare to have hurricanes, tornadoes or wild fires.

    Yes we have problems, but we have the largest pool of educated people in the country. We also have the largest seaport handling the most cargo. If you visit my town Middletown, you will see that we have the largest non-paid fire department in the USA!! And the second lowest FBI crime rate for a town our size. And for kids: over 50 baseball fields, 22 soccer fields, and 20 tennis courts. Yes, there are wonderful places to live in New Jersey!!

  40. Christopher from South Plainfield, NJ says:

    I was born and raised in NJ, but I now reside in TX. Texas is nice but nothing is like New Jersey. I spent 11 years in the Navy and have been to Memphis, Cuba, Los Angeles, Texas, and various countries in the Pacific and Spain.

    1. All of these places have good local food, but in New Jersey you can get good authentic food of any kind.
    2. People think that all you can do at the beach is get in the water, or lay out. Out-of-staters are clueless to the board walk.
    3. The only place where I live in San Antonio, Texas to get good pizza is a restaurant owned by folks from New Jersey.
    4. If you like history, just drive around New Jersey and pay attention. Get away from the airport, there is more to New Jersey then a stopover to another city.
    5. The City and Philly are not far away.
    6. If you have ever eaten a New Jersey grown tomato, you would know tomatoes everywhere else are only tolerable.

  41. Brian from Ramsey, NJ says:

    I have come to the realization that NJ is the most “ridiculed” state in the Union because other states are jealous. There are many states that don’t seem to have much to offer, but you don’t see people going out of their way to make fun of them.

    The more other states show their jealousy by using New Jersey jokes, the more New Jerseyans become proud of their great state.

  42. Dee from Palmer Township, PA says:

    I was born and raised in Glen Gardner, NJ. My husband and I bought our first house in New Hampton and lived there for 34 years. It was located along the beautiful Musconetcong River. We sold in 1998 and moved to PA, and I have been sorry ever since.

    I am truly a Jersey Girl, would give my right arm to be back there. Unfortunately, my husband is happy here in PA, which does not hold a candle to Lebanon Township in Hunterdon County. My heart will always be there

  43. Garrett from Hamilton, NJ says:

    I lived in that dump seventeen years too long. Glad to be out. The only things I regret leaving are pork roll and a specific sandwich shop, but that’s not enough to even make it tolerable to live there. The “shore” is nothing in the least bit special. The Jersey accent, which is well known but from my experience not prevalent, is extremely bothersome.

    Unless you get out in the Pine Barrens and really get down into South Jersey, there is far too much traffic. I work in civil engineering and do field work, including traffic counts, so I can tell you with fair certainty that the roads are too damn crowded. Even in the Pine Barrens on CR539 there is too much traffic at some times.

  44. Christian from Hamilton says:

    I was born in Trenton and have lived in NJ my whole life, 40 years. I’m happy to say that my wife and family are moving to PA. In the five years we have lived in Hamilton, our taxes have gone from $4,200 to $5,800 a year. You can take the corruption and taxes and put them where the sun don’t shine.

  45. C. from Mountainside, NJ says:

    I’ve lived in NJ for over 50 yrs. We really have to look as to why we have this reputation. It starts at the top with our politicians. They could care less. The only thing that matters to them is filling their pockets. Promise us everything to vote for them, and them they laugh at us and all the way to the bank.

    NJ as a state is far too liberal. It’s amazing how everyone in the country knows about our little state. We have to ask ourselves WHY. Our daughter goes to a college out of state and NO OTHER students are looked down upon except those from NJ. I used to be so proud to say I live in NJ. No more now.

    And again our so called leaders don’t care. They’re making the money. I can’t predict in how many years it will happen, but eventually NJ will be a complete total misfit state. Residents will either be wealthy or poor. The good middle class are leaving the state and we have to. SAD and embarrassing. Promises, promises from everyone and then their private laughs and parties behind closed doors.

    How could Our last governor put a non-USA resident in charge of national security for our state? Of course he already had filled his bank account and now wanted to fill his personal wishes/needs. What a joke. SAD because again most of the people in the state say poor McGreevey, and that people are being so mean because he came OUT. Oh my gosh. He had us in jeopardy.

    It truly is a sad situation. Look at Rutgers- they took away I think 6 varsity sports, academic classes and pumping big dollars into football. Where is NJ’s integrity, morals – oh no one knows these words anymore.

  46. Ed from Landing, NJ says:

    I was born and raised in Perth Amboy.

    I served my country in the US Air Force during the Vietnam War and lived in Thailand, Vietnam, Mississippi and Texas. I returned to New Jersey to start my career and raise my family, because I found that there is no better place on earth than the northwest hills of good old NJ.

    Anything you want, from Manhattan to Washington DC is just a short drive. The Jersey Shore is among the best vacation spots in the world. I love my state….let them laugh at us… until they visit and find out what they are missing.

  47. Scott from Phillipsburg, NJ says:

    Being raised in Warren County, I can attest that we have some of the best natural resources of any state out there. Granted, it isn’t Yellowstone, but it still holds many treasures and opportunities to enjoy the outdoors.

    Having frequented Stokes Forest, High Point, Delaware Water Gap National Park, Worthington State Forest, etc… I can honestly say we have the best of both worlds in the State of New Jersey. From city to country, we have it all!!!

  48. Sanford from Boca Raton, FL says:

    I am a former resident of Newark, Verona, and West Orange, and still I love NJ — it’s just to damn expensive to reside there. I have lived in Florida for 30 years but I still call New Jersey my home.

  49. Robert from Hamburg, NJ says:

    I am 73 yrs old. I moved to NJ from L.I., NY 4 year ago. I love it here – L.I. is flat, but here there are great mountains. My car insurance with the same company I had went DOWN $80.00 per year when I moved here.

    Both NJ & NY drivers are tailgaters, BUT NJ drivers do not know what S.T.O.P. means. The roads here are better. The real estate taxes on my 3-bedroom house were about $9700.00 per year. Here I live in a wonderful 1 bedroom condo & pay about $1600.00. This is great.

  50. David from Red Bank, NJ says:

    On the topic of

    You’ve got to stop this!!! Too many moving here already, even with the bad reputation. Save it for us.

  51. Barbara from Cedar Grove, NJ says:

    I love New Jersey. If you can think of a better feeling than leaving work on a Friday afternoon in the summer and heading down the shore for the weekend, knowing you’re there until Monday morning, let me know.

  52. Patricia from Bernardsville, NJ says:

    I was born and raised in Jersey. I lived in Bernardsville all my life until I married at age 23. I now live in PA, not too far away. I handle the jokes about Jersey pretty well, but I don’t understand why people have to joke about it. Jersey is a great state. I LOVE New JERSEY! I have a t-shirt that reads “Only the strong survive” with the state of NJ outlined in the background. NJ has TONS to offer, plus it’s close to the largest city in the country. What more could you ask for?

  53. Lauren from Orlando, FL says:

    I am a native Philadelphian and have spent every summer vacation at the Jersey shore since birth. My fondest memories are of those days and nights spent in Wildwood and Ocean City. Jersey is a beautiful state and I’ll never understand people’s hatred for it. I’m a big fan of New Jersey!

  54. Pat from Battle Ground, WA says:

    I grew up in Middlesex (exit 10). As a person whose interests include American History, you can’t beat Jersey’s location for both the Revolution and the Civil War. Also, look at the technology that came from our state. The only bad thing I can think of is the humidity during the summer; but that’s the whole East coast from my experience.

  55. Bob from Vernon, NJ says:

    I love living in Sussex County… I recently started driving a school bus in Vernon & enjoy the scenery of farm fields, woods, lakes & mountains as I traverse the township. I never tire of seeing these rural views. I also take advantage of our lake for boating & the many trails for hiking & snow shoeing.

  56. John from Austin, TX says:

    My image of NJ was pretty much like everyone else’s’ image of NJ. I lived in Monmouth County for a year in 1990 and learned it’s actually a nice place. You just have to get off the NJTP to realize this.

  57. Jarrett from Sayreville, NJ says:

    We have the best damn diners in the nation… where else can you get coffee and a full order of breakfast at 3 am? Not IHOP, that’s for damn sure.

  58. Bob from Vernon, NJ says:

    I supervise the Appalachian Trail from Rt. 519 (by High Point) to Rt. 565, Vernon. I see hundreds of hikers from all over and they are always amazed at how great the Trail is in NJ. I have done 1/2 the Trail and the only reason it can be better in other states is the height of the vistas.

  59. Theresa from Nutley, NJ says:

    Whoever doesn’t love New Jersey either hasn’t lived here or just can’t handle how great it is. We have it all. Love it or leave it. Just keep talking about it.

  60. Patty from Edison, NJ says:

    Except for my college years, I have lived my whole life in NJ. I love this state! The people here are down-to-earth, and the real deal.

  61. Michael from Secaucus, NJ says:

    As a former navy guy, I’ve had the opportunity to see and live in many different places all around the world. After leaving the military, I lived in Virginia for 10 years and just hated being away from NJ. I finally moved back in 95 and lived here since.

    What makes NJ so special to me? I can’t pinpoint it. But I am proud to be from here and would gladly stand in front of the cameras and say so. Everything I like and need is right here in NJ. From A.C. to the beaches to proximity to N.Y.C, its all here.

  62. Chuck from NY state and Plantation, FL says:

    I’ve been to some NY City suburbs in Jersey and found them to be absolutely beautiful.

  63. Bill from West Orange, NJ says:

    New Jersey has the best restaurants anywhere, any type of cuisine within a short driving distance.

  64. Ray from New Orleans, LA says:

    Bottom line: Despite all the jokes, NJ is the most popular place in the country to live. The high property costs are based solely on supply and demand. People choose to move to NJ even though it costs more than anywhere else. This also explains why its the most densely populated state in the U.S.

    If you like suburban living (which I hate), it is the most attractive spot in the country, hands down.

  65. John from Union, NJ says:

    In addition to everything that has already been mentioned, New Jersey has the best and widest variety of hot dogs. The Italian Hot Dog was invented in Newark in the early 1930′s. The Texas Weiner (which has nothing to do with Texas) had its beginning in Paterson in the early 1920′s.

    We have kosher style all beef dogs, German style beef/pork dogs, deep fried dogs, dirty water dogs, etc. I am a hot dog fanatic who has sampled hot dogs all over, and no place comes close to Jersey. I was a member of the Star Ledger’s S.W.A.T. Team this summer. We went to 87 different hot dog establishments and sampled over 100 different hot dogs. New Jersey is the hot dog capital of the World!

    Nowhere else can you get the variety and quality of franks that we have here in the Garden State. No where else can you get an Italian Hot Dog. People from other states think it is a sausage sandwich!

  66. Lisa from Westfield, NJ says:

    Overall New Jersey is great! Love the beach and the mountains. Close to the City or Philly and the best entertainment and culture in the world. Traffic sucks but overall there is something great about being a suburb of two great cities. I really could not live anywhere else since I was born and bred here, and at this point I have lived in almost every county of the state, and I am still here. And don’t forget the best tomatoes in the world!!!

  67. Jucinda from Suprise, AZ says:

    The only reason I am not still living in Jersey is the weather, and my kids and grandkids are in Arizona. I still have family in Jersey though.

    Out-of-state people hear only the negativity. They shouldn’t judge until they visit our beaches, our lakes, and experience the close proximity to Manhattan with the broadway shows, the museums, etc.

  68. Fred from Millstone, NJ says:

    Central New Jersey is Mecca for the Reformed Church in America. Though we are a small denomination, there is a high concentration of reformed churches in Central Jersey because the Dutch settled here, bringing with them the Reformed Church. There is a reformed church in virtually every town.

    New Brunswick Theological Seminary in the city of that name is the oldest Protestant theological seminary in the country. Also, central Jersey boasts three superb theological schools – NBTS already mentioned, Princeton Theological Seminary (Presbyterian) and Drew (Methodist). For resources in the reformed church or Protestantism generally, it is like heaven here!

  69. Joel from Tampa, FL says:

    love Jersey & miss it terribly!
    I was born & raised in Camden, County, close to Philly. So I am a south Jersey boy all the way! My elementary (Erial), middle (C.W. Lewis), & high school (Highland) were all on the same road. The people were great – emotional & loud, but some of the most loyal friends ever. You always new where you stood with people in Jersey!

    The food was the best! Wa-wa’s were everywhere & you could always get to the mall or shore in just a little while. I live in Florida now, but would move back in a heart beat!

  70. Alan from Verona, NJ says:

    I went to school out of state and all I heard was negative remarks about Jersey. Yet, Jersey had so much more to offer than where I was. I love Jersey, the shore, the Italian food, the Meadowlands, everything. I’ve been all over, and a lot of the other states are great, but nothing compares to what NJ has to offer. We have it all, city life, country, beaches (which are just as clean as anywhere I’ve seen).

  71. Kristen from Union, NJ says:

    I am a self proclaimed Jersey Girl! I’ve got the jersey attitude, LOVE my accent, and love the fact that from where I live, I can be at either a beach or in New York City within 30 minutes!!! I love my state, and no matter what the haters say, Jersey until I die!!!!

  72. Michael from Edison, NJ says:

    I was born in Newark (pronounced “Nork”, not “new ark”) 57 years ago, was raised in Iselin, lived in Hillside and have had a Home in Edison since 1978. I love Jersey but hate the politics and the taxes.

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